http://www.tmz.com/2010/03/23/inglourious-basterds-restraining-order-michael-fessbender/#ixzz0j3f8lAQT
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Link to the article. I realize it’s TMZ but there other reports out there too. Google is your friend.
After reading the article, it sounds like her restraining order came 9 months after the fact, “apparently.” I would never excuse a man for harming another woman, but do you think this could’ve been avoided if she’d just left him after the first time? I mean, why stick around if he’s already put his hands on you? She had kids and there were two separate incidents. But maybe I’m wrong.
Unfortunately, this happens all the time. Especially is abusive relationships because physical abuse is emotional abuse and these men can be extremely manipulative and protective. They can guilt trip like no other and for anyone thats ever been an unhealthy but addictive relationship, even if it didn’t involve actual physical abuse, it’s easier said than done.
what the fuck? so it’s her fault and she could have avoided it by leaving him? this is why there is such a stigma against women in domestic violence. there are plenty of times when men guilt-trip women into coming back to them and don’t give me that bullshit about ‘how can she love him when he hit her’ abusive relationships are INCREDIBLY damaging psychologically as well. you saying that ‘oh if she just left him it would be better’ isn’t going to help her situation at all.
a friend of mine was raped by a man when she was 11 years old and even when she was 16 she didn’t want to press charges because she was scared to be called a slut. and this is why they don’t press charges, because you know what? they’re called sluts afterwards.
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http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cycle_of_abuse
http://helpguide.org/mental/domestic_violence_abuse_types_signs_causes_effects.htm
http://www.domesticviolence.org/cycle-of-violence/
Does that answer your question?
I was in an abusive relationship. We broke up, and I managed to get out of the relationship, but a year or so later he came back into my life and I went right back into the relationship, knowing how horrible it was.
Domestic violence isn’t a simple thing.
It’s a physically and mentally traumatic thing, where the logical solutions aren’t always possible. It beats you down mentally until you’re lying to yourself and convinced that there’s nothing wrong, and anything that is wrong is a direct result of your own actions, and that if you just fucking try harder to be better, maybe it will stop.
So, I don’t give a shit how much you want to rub one out to Michael Fassbender guilt-free, you don’t get to shit on abuse victims to do that.
Educate yourself before making stupid-ass statements like that. And go fuck yourself for those sarcastic quotes around the word apparently.
Someone really close to my family is in currently in an abusive relationship. Hes permanently fucked up her back where shes in constant pain, hes given her whiplash, she wears makeup to cover up the bruises, etc, etc, etc. You talk to her about it and you realize it’s not so simple as “just” leaving him. There’s emotional, mental, and even sometimes financial manipulation going on that ties people to abusers. And especially if she fears for her life or her childrens’, especially if she already knows what violence this man is capable of, murder really doesn’t seem too far off. Maybe it took 9 months because this woman had a great support system and they finally got through to her after then. Maybe you’re absofuckinglutelywrong and should stfu.
